1 Cakes & Louie: Lay it all out there: Things that make me uncomfortable

Friday, May 3, 2013

Lay it all out there: Things that make me uncomfortable

I’ve decided to sort of half participate in Jenni from Storyof my Life’s “Blog Everyday in May” challenge… get ready for more rambling and randomness from me than you could probably ever want!

The reason I say I’m half participating is because while I do plan to try and blog almost everyday in May, I already have some things that are going to make that challenging – like a vacation – so I don’t want to say I’m 100% going to succeed. And, Jenni was extra awesome and came up with topics for all of us bloggers to write about every day if we were experiencing a bit of writer’s block, but I don’t plan on using those prompts every single day since I already have some other posts planned – like my DIY pallet couch for next week!

But bottom line, I was excited to stumble on Jenni’s blog, add her super cute button to my sidebar, and linkup with a ton of other bloggers on the days that I do follow the prompts. Today’s “things that make me uncomfortable” topic is insanely simple for me considering I am generally a very squrmish, prude and awkward person :). So, here ya go, a list of 4 things that make me incredibly uncomfortable. There are obviously a million more, but I decided to keep this short and sweet.

1. Close talkers. I am a big fan of personal space, and will never understand why some people feel the need to stand *this* close to someone they are talking to. I hate the feeling of trying to inch away without being rude, only to have the person follow your lead and continue to inch closer.

2. Full-grown people that are smaller than me. I KNOW, I’m a horrible person. People cannot help their size. But I’m pretty small, so when someone is a lot smaller than me, I get really thrown off and don’t know what to do. I would like to think this is mostly because I have spent my entire life looking UP to people because I’ve always been short, so looking down at someone is just unnatural… but in all honesty it’s really just a bratty thing about me that I’d love to change.

3. When sex is talked about in a vulgar fashion. Take for instance the movie “Friends With Kids,” which Dan and I watched together a couple weeks ago. I loved it and was cracking up half the time because they did such a great job (I think) of showcasing real life. But then the last line of the movie was (spoiler alert) “Let me f*** the s*** out of you”… um, what? This was a guy that was professing his love to a girl. Really? It made me squirm, and sort of honestly ruined the rest of the movie for me. Given this explanation, it's probably no surprise to anyone that knows me that I have never seen a porn. Ever. Just the thought of it creeps me out.

4. When people ask me how much I make, or what I paid for my house, car, wedding, etc. Interestingly enough, I'm pretty willing to spill all the details on most of those things and more without much thought, but I like to do it on my own accord. If someone asks me flat out about finances, I think it's super awkward and rude, but if I decide to do it myself, no biggie.

In case anyone is wondering, just leaving this list at 4 (and not 3 or 5) was uncomfortable to me. I feel like lists are never in 4's, but I couldn't think of a 5th thing I was dying to share to anyone that wanted to read. :)

What makes you uncomfortable? Any fun plans for the weekend in store?


  1. 1. Slow walkers in front of me
    2. People walking on the sidewalk that take up the WHOLE sidewalk and are oblivious (esp if they are walking slowly)
    3. People walking their dog not paying attention to where the leash is going... usually right in front of you (especially if they are walking slow and taking up the whole sidewalk)
    4. Dirt under fingernails
    5. Mens feet

    Man I could go on and on...

  2. These four things make me uncomfortable too. I was so glad to read about you being uncomfortable with smaller people. I feel that way a lot but of course, haven't admitted it because I didn't want to seem weird. And it isn't as if people can control how tall they are.

    My weekend included taking my daughter to Nashville for the weekend and participating in a 5K FoamFest race. We had a blast even though it rained on us the entire time and the temps never rose above 44 degrees.

  3. Your #1 makes plenty of sense. #4 seems ridiculous given that you blog about how much you spend on other things on a regular basis. People probably think you'll tell them since you explain what you spend on everything else you buy.

    #2 makes you ridiculously immature, shallow, and unChristian (that might be a bit far since maybe you aren't Christian). I suffer from achondroplasia and am 3'8". Life is difficult enough without someone like you admitting you're uncomfortable around me. Julie- i cannot control my height and sense when people are uncomfortable. Are you uncomfotable when someone is fat, super tall, or anorexic as well? I can tell when people are weirded out by my height. YOu're judging me on something externally. I judge you on what I see on the inside which is someone incapable of looking past my physical features to get to know me. That makes you not worth my time and effort. If the two of you went to an event for LPA (Little People of America) you'd learn we like the same things as you- crafts, hanging out with family, shopping. I hope you try to make more efforts. Do you have friends who are different races from you? religion? how about in a wheelchair? So disheartening.

    1. Hi Anon,
      Thanks so much for reading my blog. It seems that you read it enough that you must have seen the post where I talked about all of the negative comments I was getting and I mentioned the traffic tracker that I added to my site. Thanks to my tracker, I can see that you read my blog quite often, and you leave anonymous comments on a regular basis that are bordering on snarky and rude. While I have approved some of them, there are others that I have not posted simply because I am not looking for my blog to be a negative thing. I can and will write about whatever I want to write about, and if you don't necessarily agree with everything that I write, we're just going to have to agree to disagree. And if you dislike it that much, you are obviously welcome to stop reading my blog.

      As far as this specific post - you're right, #2 IS shallow, which is exactly why I said flat out in my writing that it is something about myself that I do not like. I apologize if I've offended you personally, but I try to be open and honest on my blog and that is what this was about. It's great that you judge people based on what you see inside - I strive to be like that as well, but sometimes it's just really difficult. I know it's not apples to apples, but I imagine the looks and the giggles and the pointing and the disgusting jokes I got for 13 years while I battled severe acne were probably similar in some ways to how you may feel when you can tell someone is uncomfortable with your height. Throw in my height, my weight, my lack of big boobs, my huge front teeth and a few other things and I can assure you it's all given me a pretty thick skin and I do a much better job these days of not giving a damn about what other people think of me... but it doesn't make me perfect, and again, I apologize if I've offended you.

      On another note - I can also see from my tracker that you are local. We're practically neighbors. So if you're up for it, I'd love to buy you a coffee and chat in person. If you like crafts, hanging out with family and shopping like you've noted above, I think we'd have a great time. You can email me at cakesandlouie@gmail.com if you're interested. If you aren't up for it, I completely understand, but I have changed my blog settings so that anonymous comments are no longer allowed on my posts. I am open and honest about who I am, and I'd love for my readers to do the same.